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Detachment with Respect

[fa icon="calendar'] Aug 17, 2018 12:06:56 PM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in healthy detachment, detachment with respect, alcoholism, alcoholic loved one, boundaries

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Slamming doors. Broken dishes. Arguments that the neighbors could hear clearly. Tears. Unkind words. And, conversely the resonant sound of hostile silence. The disease of alcoholism had wedged itself into the middle of our marriage.

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THINK Before You Speak!

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 21, 2017 9:00:00 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in Family, Family Program, family recovery, communication, alcoholic loved one, family support

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When I started attending recovery meetings for family members affected by someone else’s addiction, something became clear to me pretty quickly: I had no idea how to communicate in a healthy manner.

The communication that had taken place in my marriage when alcoholism was present ran through three phases.  Phase 1 was to talk to him about his drinking and use whenever I could, and however I could, in the hope of making him stop.  Phase 2 was not talking about his drinking and use at all, with the hope that if I ignored it would go away.  Phase 3 was letting the frustration of this situation take over, and not talking about anything – otherwise known as the silent treatment. Of course, staring at someone else and thinking at them until they figure out what’s wrong is not the most effective communication tool…

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Children are Part of the Family, too!

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 23, 2017 9:59:55 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, family support, family addiciton, alcoholic loved one

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Merry Christmas... At Last

[fa icon="calendar'] Dec 23, 2015 9:30:00 AM / by John MacDougall posted in sober, hope, recovering alcoholics, alcoholic loved one, alcoholism, Christmas, Holiday Season

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This year, 2015, is the first year that I haven’t felt some generalized distress at Christmas time. It began when I was a child in a violent, alcoholic home. I almost always got hurt on the days leading up to Christmas. It would begin with the tree.

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Work Together as a Family to Help an Alcoholic Loved One.

[fa icon="calendar'] Aug 20, 2015 10:37:00 AM / by Ellie Hyatt posted in Al-anon, alcoholic loved one, alcohol recovery

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Family Recovery Series: 6 Things You Can Do to Help an Alcoholic Loved One.

Part 4: Work Together as a Family

Last month we talked about the importance of setting limits and sticking to them, so the alcoholic learns to take responsibility for their own destructive actions. Family members must take care of themselves if they’re going to be able to help and setting limits is a key piece of self-care. 
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Set Limits with an Alcoholic Loved One and Stick to Them.

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 28, 2015 10:30:00 AM / by Ellie Hyatt posted in addiction, Family Program, family support, family recovery, alcoholic loved one, setting limits with an alcoholic

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Family Recovery Series: 6 Things You Can Do to Help an Alcoholic Loved One.

Part 3: Set Limits and Stick to Them

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