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“If I Recover, Who Will I Be?”

[fa icon="calendar'] Nov 14, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by John MacDougall posted in Recovery, recovering alcoholics, The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholics Anonymous, addiction

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I never asked this question when I was getting sober, but I have heard other people ask it. I thought they were raising unreasonable objections to getting sober or expressing resistance to recovery. Over the years, patients at Hazelden and guests at The Retreat have spoken of their reluctance to recover by saying that they are afraid to recover, because they are afraid of who they might be if they stop drinking or drugging. What will happen, they ask, if they get sober and don’t like themselves, or don’t like who they have become?

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There is Hope in The Pain

[fa icon="calendar'] Aug 29, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by Kara F posted in faith-based recovery, women in recovery, Recovery, spirituality

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Life is hard sometimes. When I entered the world of life in recovery, I thought it was about just not using and redeeming what I thought was my horrible, weak character. Years later, I now know that it is much more. Life, whether through addiction recovery or any other adversity, is about reaching a chapter of spiritual growth. So here’s the hard truth! Spiritual growth does not blossom through the easy, peasy moments. It is birthed through adversity and hardship. And nobody escapes life without adversity and hardship! Here’s the thing…life and people and circumstances are not out to get you, they are out to grow you!

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Digging the Hole

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 18, 2018 11:14:08 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in Recovery, addiction, alcoholism, family recovery

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Watching someone you love struggle with addiction or alcoholism is extremely painful. I often liken it to watching someone dig a deep hole.

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Abuse is not acceptable on any level!

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 5, 2018 11:55:09 AM / by Kara F posted in Recovery, abuse, treatment

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I can’t tell you how many conversations I have had with a woman embarking on recovery that is traumatized by abuse in some way, shape or form. I think we can all agree that the word abuse riles up a certain distain in each of us. But have you ever thought about yourself as the abuser? Ouch, tough question and I bet most would say no way! However, the same women I talk to are also abusers of themselves. This is not an accusation I state lightly as I am also an alumni of abusing myself. I am talking about negative self-talk, self-hate and self-loathing. Regardless of its origin, I believe we are all guilty of this on some level. I used to beat myself up with demeaning and horrible statements when I didn’t live up to my unrealistic expectations. Calling myself a stupid this or an incompetent that. Even for an accidental toe stubbing! Can you imagine if you stubbed your toe and I hollered at you that you were a total moron? Have Mercy, that’s not even logical or remotely loving and respectful!!!! My friends….is this not verbal and emotional abuse? I had to ask myself, would you say these things you claim about yourself, in your head, to another living human being? Heck no!! So why is it ok to have this running commentary in our heads and spirits about ourselves? It’s not!! Its verbal, emotional and mental abuse towards ourselves and by ourselves. And it’s not ok!

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Boundaries or Bolsters

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 20, 2018 10:18:08 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in relationships during recovery, Recovery, boundaries

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“With dignity we will stand for ourselves, but not against our fellows.”

-“From Survival to Recovery”

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A Part Of

[fa icon="calendar'] Mar 21, 2018 10:30:00 AM / by Jake Lewis posted in Sober House, Recovery

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Growing up, I wanted people to like me. I considered it a personal challenge to win people over. And I wanted to feel connected to those people. I was intrigued by spirituality, and how it might make me feel connected, so I would “meditate.”  But really I was just getting high, contemplating not my place in the vast continuum, but rather how a fish might have a swordfight with a bee.

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Growing Pains

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 14, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by John D. posted in Recovery, Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Step, 5th Step, growing pains

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I attended a lecture recently where the speaker described her recovery process from an accident. She said “healing is painful.”

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Serving Those Who Have Served

[fa icon="calendar'] Nov 15, 2017 10:00:00 AM / by John D. posted in verterans, addiction, alcoholism, drug and alcohol recovery, Recovery, Holiday Season

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This time of year always finds me reflecting on the men and women who have served in our Armed Forces. Veterans Day, Pearl Harbor Day, the anniversary of the Battle of the Bulge, the anniversary of the Tet Offensive all take place at this time of year. Additionally, from now through New Year’s Eve we will see TV commercials from service women and men who are overseas wishing loved ones back home a merry and happy holiday season.

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Chasing Waterfalls: My Path To Self-Discovery

[fa icon="calendar'] Oct 11, 2017 10:24:43 AM / by Kara F posted in Recovery, sober community

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      Facing the new and the uncomfortable can be hard and terrifying work! This life in recovery has so many blessings and rewards, but it’s not always easy to walk the path in front of you in order to reach deeper understanding and more beautiful moments of growth in life. We must move through the hard and uncomfortable, knowing it is temporary, to keep growing spiritually and enjoy the blessings that await.

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“I Wish I Could Go To The Retreat Without Having To Relapse.”

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 28, 2017 9:16:39 AM / by John MacDougall posted in 12 Steps, Recovery, sobriety, big book

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           I have heard this wishful thinking many times over the past three years, since I came to work at The Retreat full time in May 2014. Many people who are sober in AA have a sense that their program isn’t all that it could be. They want more, but aren’t sure how to get it. Our Big Book says that it is easy to be vague about the matter of prayer and meditation, and then it goes on to make some “definite and valuable suggestions.” (page 86). The Retreat is all about those “definite and valuable suggestions” that we find in the Big Book.

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