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TRY HARDER

[fa icon="calendar'] Apr 18, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by Kevin J posted in sobriety, Alcoholics Anonymous, spirituality, 12 step program, sponsorship

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I always learned that the cure for any hurdle was to “try harder.” Struck out in Little League? TRY HARDER next at bat. Low grade on a test? STUDY HARDER next exam. Didn’t close the sale at work? TRY HARDER next customer. The message was to keep doing what you’re doing…but TRY HARDER! Can’t stop drinking? TRY HARDER. When I tried as hard as I could to stop drinking and using drugs and found that I could not on my own will, I tried harder in other areas of my life. Surely success in those areas would offset my utter failure to control and enjoy my drinking! That logic seemed unbeatable. But experience taught I am not. And thus the great paradox of recovery reared its beautiful head in my life. To make progress, to find sobriety, to find happiness, I had to STOP TRYING. (WHAT??)

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Recovery Is Not Sexually Transmitted

[fa icon="calendar'] Mar 28, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by John MacDougall posted in recovery process, recovery tools, relationships during recovery

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Every morning at The Retreat I look at the in-house email. It tells me who has the day off, the lunch menu for the day, and any special events. It tells the number of admissions and discharges at The Retreat, and how many guests we have. It also lists the number of openings in the six sober houses that The Retreat owns and operates in Saint Paul. Usually the number of openings is “0”.

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A Part Of

[fa icon="calendar'] Mar 21, 2018 10:30:00 AM / by Jake Lewis posted in Recovery, Sober House

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Growing up, I wanted people to like me. I considered it a personal challenge to win people over. And I wanted to feel connected to those people. I was intrigued by spirituality, and how it might make me feel connected, so I would “meditate.”  But really I was just getting high, contemplating not my place in the vast continuum, but rather how a fish might have a swordfight with a bee.

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Top Five Things About Getting and Being a Sponsor

[fa icon="calendar'] Mar 7, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by John D. posted in Alcoholics Anonymous, AA, Sponsor Relationships

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Top Five Things About Getting a Sponsor:

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Becoming God-Conscious

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 28, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by John MacDougall posted in alcohol addiction, drug addiction, Alcoholics Anonymous, AA, The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, faith-based recovery, god-conscious

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One of the great opportunities of living the program of Alcoholics Anonymous is our ability to become “God-Conscious.” Because our alcoholism is a brain disease, our brains reset themselves every night in our sleep to “alcoholic”. I find that I need to set my brain back every morning to “sober”.

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Growing Pains

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 14, 2018 9:30:00 AM / by John D. posted in Alcoholics Anonymous, 5th Step, Recovery, 4th Step, growing pains

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I attended a lecture recently where the speaker described her recovery process from an accident. She said “healing is painful.”

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We Don’t Get To Pick The Next Consequence.

[fa icon="calendar'] Jan 31, 2018 10:30:00 AM / by John MacDougall posted in alcohol addiction, Alcoholics Anonymous, addiction, recovering alcoholics

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At age 19, I had all the evidence I needed that I was an alcoholic. On one terribly cold, windy, January day, I was kicked out of college. That event made me homeless. I was standing in front of the dormitory that used to be my home, almost broke. I had sixty-nine cents in total assets, all in coins in my pocket. I had nowhere to go. I was drunk, even though it was still morning. I was so drunk that I couldn’t stop peeing my pants, and the frozen pee was sticking to my legs.

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My Story

[fa icon="calendar'] Jan 24, 2018 10:30:00 AM / by John D. posted in alcohol dependency, Alcoholics Anonymous, alcohol recovery, alcoholism, 12 step program, disease of alcoholism, working the steps to recovery, young people in A.A.

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andrew-neel-109201.jpg My name is John and I’m an alcoholic. Sober by the grace of God, the application of the 12 Steps and the fellowship of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, I haven’t found it necessary to take a drink since July 22, 1978.

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A New Year’s Inventory

[fa icon="calendar'] Jan 3, 2018 8:00:00 AM / by John MacDougall posted in sobriety, alcohol addiction, Alcoholics Anonymous, 5th Step, AA, recovering alcoholics, alcohol recovery, 11th step, Holiday Season, The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Step

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The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous makes promises on pages 83 and 84. At the New Year, let’s see how these promises are coming true. We can all take inventory of these promises.

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Young People and A.A.

[fa icon="calendar'] Dec 27, 2017 1:31:38 PM / by John D. posted in alcohol dependency, Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 Steps, alcohol recovery, younger sobriety, youth sobriety, young people in A.A., ICYPAA

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My drinking got me kicked out of school; it got me into trouble with the law; I was put on probation; I was court ordered to counseling and I was fighting constantly with my parents. I hated what I was doing to them and I loathed what I was doing to myself, but I didn’t know how to stop. I finally got honest with my probation officer one day and she suggested I go to a Young Peoples A.A. meeting.

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