Excerpt from August 2023 Mpls. St. Paul Magazine Mental Health Section:
A nonresponse is non-negotiable when it comes to helping a loved one navigate the journey from active addiction to active recovery. But even if confrontation isn't one of your strong suits (we are Minnesotans, after all), don't let it get in the way of approaching your person when you're looking out for their livelihood.
"There is a step that loved ones can consider before staging and intervention," says John Curtiss, President and CEO of The Retreat, and alcohol and drug recovery center in Wayzata. "It's important to have an open and honest conversation... [that's] nonjudgmental, empathetic, and focused on expressing concern for their well-being." If your loved one is showing signs of resistance and you're certain their behavior is endangering themselves or (or others), an intervention is no longer an option. This is an instance where pushing yourself out of your comfort zone can prove to be a literal lifesaver for the person on the other end.
"It's important to remember that an intervention is not meant to be an intimidation tactic, but rather a way to express love and concern while offering support in finding help," he says. Broaching the subject with a family member or friend can be scary; Curtiss offers the following conversation starters:
"I've noticed that you've been drinking/using drugs a lot lately. How are you feeling?"
"I'm concerned about your health and well-being. Can we talk about your alcohol/drug use?"
"I've noticed that you've been struggling lately. Is there anything I can do to help?"
To read this and more from The Retreat's own John Curtiss, you may click here: MPLS. St.Paul Magazine August 2023. Or pick up a copy of the MPLS. St. Paul Magazine August edition at newsstands near you.
Articles from The Retreat appear on page 116 & 122.
