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Detachment with Respect

[fa icon="calendar'] Aug 17, 2018 12:06:56 PM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, alcoholism, Recovery, alcohol abuse, Family Sober Support

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Slamming doors. Broken dishes. Arguments that the neighbors could hear clearly. Tears. Unkind words. And, conversely the resonant sound of hostile silence. The disease of alcoholism had wedged itself into the middle of our marriage.

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Digging the Hole

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 18, 2018 11:14:08 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, alcoholism, substance abuse, Family Sober Support, Drugs Adiction

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Watching someone you love struggle with addiction or alcoholism is extremely painful. I often liken it to watching someone dig a deep hole.

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Boundaries or Bolsters

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 20, 2018 10:18:08 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, alcoholism, Family Sober Support, Recovery Program, Drugs Adiction

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“With dignity we will stand for ourselves, but not against our fellows.”

-“From Survival to Recovery”

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The Gift of Self-Care

[fa icon="calendar'] Nov 22, 2017 9:31:39 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in Alcoholics Anonymous, family recovery, alcoholism, Family Sober Support, Recovery Program

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The first time I went with my husband to his side of the family for the holidays, I struggled. Although my family was far from perfect, the holidays were something that I felt we did really well.

Even in my adult years, my mom always waited until everyone was asleep on Christmas Eve to put gifts under the tree. We would awake to magic. We would open stockings, and have a little breakfast, and then start a leisurely unwrapping of the presents. Gifts would be opened one at a time, and everyone would have an opportunity to see what everyone else was receiving. If a little one opened something that they wanted to play with for a while, we allowed for that. After all of the gifts were open, we would start cooking the big family meal. It smelled divine! We would eat, basking in the abundance, and then clean up, have dessert, and sit around the table for hours having conversation and playing games.

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Personal Prayer.

[fa icon="calendar'] Aug 24, 2017 10:10:34 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, alcoholism, 12 steps of aa, AA Big Book, Family Sober Support

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There was a period in my life where I spent most of my time doing one of two things: I was either worrying to extremes, or praying about what I was worrying about. My prayers were desperate. I often prayed “Please let him come home safely.” Sometimes I prayed for something to change. At other times, I would make bargains. I would plea for resolution, and make promises in exchange.

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Acknowledge, Accept, and Refocus: the Practical Application of Meditation.

[fa icon="calendar'] Jul 26, 2017 9:30:00 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, AA meetings, 12 steps of aa, Family Sober Support, 12 Traditions Of AA

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Step 11: “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”

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THINK Before You Speak!

[fa icon="calendar'] Jun 21, 2017 9:00:00 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, alcoholism, Family Sober Support, Recovery Program, Drugs Adiction

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When I started attending recovery meetings for family members affected by someone else’s addiction, something became clear to me pretty quickly: I had no idea how to communicate in a healthy manner.

The communication that had taken place in my marriage when alcoholism was present ran through three phases.  Phase 1 was to talk to him about his drinking and use whenever I could, and however I could, in the hope of making him stop.  Phase 2 was not talking about his drinking and use at all, with the hope that if I ignored it would go away.  Phase 3 was letting the frustration of this situation take over, and not talking about anything – otherwise known as the silent treatment. Of course, staring at someone else and thinking at them until they figure out what’s wrong is not the most effective communication tool…

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When Someone You Love is Struggling.

[fa icon="calendar'] Apr 21, 2017 9:00:00 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in Alcoholics Anonymous, family recovery, Drug Rehab, Family Sober Support, Recovery Program

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Currently there is a situation in my life that doesn’t have any direct impact on me, and yet it’s been on my mind and on my heart.  Someone I love is struggling.  It’s deep and painful, and it’s difficult to watch.  I’ve often thought that if I had to choose between my own heartbreak, and the heartbreak of someone I love, I would choose my own time and time again.

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Can Unity Exist in Relationships?

[fa icon="calendar'] Mar 15, 2017 8:30:00 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in family recovery, AA meetings, 12 steps of aa, Family Sober Support, 12 Traditions Of AA

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Children are Part of the Family, too!

[fa icon="calendar'] Feb 23, 2017 9:59:55 AM / by Sherry Gaugler-Stewart posted in Alcoholics Anonymous, family recovery, alcoholism, Family Sober Support, Recovery Program

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